Do you have a spouse who cares more about pornography than he or she does about you?
We are constantly receiving emails from men and women who have a spouse trapped in pornography and they do not know how to help.
If you are here, you are likely dealing with a relationship in which your partner has been cheating on you and is likely involved in pornography.
The other day Dr. Skinner was talking with a woman who had been married for 30 years. She found a lot of pornography on her ex-husbands computer after she had learned that he was having an affair. She was devastated and looking for answers to why he would leave her and their daughters. The answer is hard to understand. Her husband developed a pornography addiction and had began acting out his fantasies with other women. Her cheating spouse had transformed his pornography addiction into an affair.
If you are like most individuals who are dealing with a cheating spouse you are likely emotionally frustrated, worried, afraid, hurt, and/or angry.
Over the past few years, I have heard many gut wrenching stories from clients who have come into my office distraught with their spouse who has become addicted to pornography or who have become involved in sexually-oriented chat rooms.
They tell stories of not being sexually intimate for weeks, months, or years at a time. They express deep hurt and rejection because they don’t feel desirable anymore. They ask questions or make statements like:
How could he or she have done this to our family?
What is wrong with me? I must not be good enough for him or her.
If you are like most people who have a cheating spouse you have many questions. Our desire here at Discover and Change is to provide you with information that will help you through this challenging time.
In an effort to provide answers to the many questions we have received over the years from spouses who have a cheating partner involved in pornography, We have created an audio series titled, “A Spouse’s Guide to Helping a Partner Caught in Pornography Addiction”.
This series will cover the following areas:
- The emotional phases you can expect to go through now that you have learned about your spouse’s behavior.
- The key elements of disclosure—what you should be looking for and what you can expect—you may want to listen to this section with your spouse.
- How to understand and assess your spouses involvement in pornography (is it just pornography? Or are there other addictive behaviors involved?).
- Ideas on how to determine the likelihood of whether your spouse will change or not.
- The common mistakes spouses make when trying to help.
- How to be helpful but not overly involved. This area focuses on your role as a spouse. Most spouses simply do not know how to respond when they find that their partner is viewing pornography behind their back or are involved in online sex.
- Finding good professional help—Learn what questions to ask when looking for a good therapist or group.
- Methods to help yourself heal.
- Characteristics of couples who do well in the recovery process.
If you are lost and wondering how to respond to your spouse’s pornography addiction, We highly recommend you purchase this product.
You can listen to this audio series today. All you need to to is purchase today and you will instantly be able to download this hour long audio series. Normally this sales for $24.95, but today you can listen to it for $9.95.
This is a collection of audio recordings from “Treating Pornography Addiction” that focus on helping you handle your spouse’s pornography addiction. They will be immediately available for download after payment.